Content and effectiveness.

Think about the last time you faced with situations where you have to stand up for myself, asking what you need. For women, the said request, his real desire is often more difficult for men. In the eyes of society, we are looking for the familiar virtues as meekness, patience. This could be long-term consequences, from the poor relation to a range of career-range, less being promoted.

Please check QUESTIONS YOU MUST NOT FOLLOWING THE HABIT?

1. Too cautious of requests

that we often question becomes softer with words such as "may", "wish" instead of "I need", "I want". This makes your statement seem more easy going but can also cause "confusion" between the offer or suggestion, so that the receiver can hear it a little more seriously. 2. Ask instead stating Be careful when changing his statement in the form of questions such as "color, which is great, is not it?" or question "do you think we should try a little with the item no?". These types so make your intentions become clear. Listeners will be able to understand you're not hesitate to ask and what answers given opposite of what you desire. 3. Reluctant to accept When experiencing a negative answer to what you want, some people immediately "give up". However self-conscious about your answers may not be accurate. If you have an answer as such, it is important to reiterate his desire and require compromise. In fact, people are generally quite comfortable with a healthy compromise. 4. Do not know how to control language, gestures You can state your desire not bad but let's see if your eyes, your gestures speak something else. According to the statistics: only about 23% of your words are worth in the message. More than 70% are located in the voice, gestures, eye contact and make sure the audience is watching you very carefully. The facial expression features, habits anxious, restless as fingerprints, bite your nails will be "tattling" that what you are saying is not what you really want.

OVERCOMING HOW?

1. Educate yourself whether you want to understand what and why?

Knowing the needs and desires of her, the importance of them makes you create positive results. Evaluate the needs of others and try to think about measures that could satisfy both parties. 2. In anticipation of the answer can this be easier if you Beit listeners. Please planned series of answers you can get and eliminate them one. Prepare thoroughly for each case, how would you say, how gesture. This will help you avoid falling into unexpected situations and passive. 3. Relax Normally we overestimate the negative possibilities. This causes fear and makes speaking out what they want to become more difficult. Actually, the worst thing that can happen when your request is denied, and then we find another measure, that's all. 4. Speak up asking Once you relax, then repeat and hes still not to the "object" and say your wishes? 5. Rate of exchange When you have finished, please take a moment to evaluate and draw experience for next time. Let's see if it might be better not, you have succeeded at what point? Do not torture yourself if the results are not happening as expected. Instead, look for other ways to accomplish desired. END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTMENT.WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.22/3/2014.NAM MO SAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).